The way you responded to Wechat exposed your EQ.

Zeng Guofan has a saying: talk like water and do things like mountains.

in the conversation between people, making each other feel comfortable is the most basic self-cultivation of a person.

A person's words are often the most revealing of his character.

when some people open their mouth, it makes people feel like spring breeze, while others make people feel on pins and needles when they open their mouth.

the same is true of network communication, which reveals the truest heart of a person word by word.

in life, the person who answers your message in this way is the most worthy of deep acquaintance.

01

there is an explanation for everything and an echo for everything

I believe many people have encountered this situation: when chatting on Wechat, the other person suddenly "disappeared" without warning or text.

it may take a long time before he suddenly replied, "I was busy just now."

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maybe he is really busy before he forgets to reply.

but some people are equally busy, but they can always remember to say "I'll go first" in advance.

this gap reflects the performance of whether a person is reliable or not.

some people have summed up that the so-called reliability is nothing more than three points: there is an explanation for everything, a reason for everything, and an answer for everything.

I think so.

read a story:

A company hired two interns.

the first intern, outstanding, smart, creative and eloquent, is often "missing" on Wechat.

and another intern, just one advantage, reliable.

when I tell you about him, I will give you an answer as soon as possible; if it can be done, I will also give you an answer; when it can be done, I will give you an answer.

so, at the end of the internship, the company left only a second intern.

reliable, is a person's most important talent.

writer Chi Li once said: reliable, it is simple to say, but complicated to fall down; it sounds like a feeling, but it is a principle to do it.

the mother-in-law assesses her son-in-law, and the boss examines the staff and entrusts acquaintances to do things by themselves. generally, they have to ask in their heart, is this person reliable? The word

reliable contains almost all our sense of trust.

A truly reliable person is not necessarily the smartest, but he must be trustworthy, not necessarily the most successful, but certainly worth interacting with.

in this world, there is no shortage of smart people, but really reliable and down-to-earth people.

those who fail in their work will dump others, and those who put aside their responsibilities do not take responsibility.

people who complain when they are in trouble in life are not worth socializing with.

Li Ka-shing once said: to find reliable people to do things, smart people can only chat.

people who are really reliable are responsible for everything, responsible for everything, and have a beginning and an end for everything.

A reliable person has principles at the bottom of his heart, does things appropriately, and is always worthy of deep acquaintance.

02

Confucius replied, "if you give people by mouth, you hate people again and again."

means sharp-tongued, aggressive and annoying.

just like in life, some people always like to say: I speak bluntly, don't be angry.

and in many cases, the person who says this sentence is most likely to tear open our scars.

if you are angry, he will blame you for "can't take a joke".

do not know that only when the parties find it funny, it is called "joking".

the parties are unwilling and insist that they are joking, that is, playing hooligans.

A person's joking sense of size is often the best way to see his character.

Don't joke about other people's flaws, don't joke about other people's privacy, is the bottom line.

the old saying goes: if you say nothing, you will have no friends, and if you do your harshness, you will be far away.

you need to pay attention to the way you talk to people, whether it's face-to-face or Wechat, don't say anything that hurts.

if it is really for the good of each other, you might as well change your tone, be gentle, and know how to take care of others.

otherwise it would be like this story:

A person asked a friend, "We have known each other for so long, do you think I have any shortcomings to correct?"

my friend honestly listed many of his shortcomings, such as unpunctuality, sarcasm, and sometimes breaking his word, but did not notice that his face gradually darkened.

the end result is that the two broke up in discord.

No matter how good the relationship is, you can't help opening an open mouth.

A good word warms you in three winters, but a bad word hurts you in June.

everyone has their own self-esteem and pride, do not use their own personality to challenge the temper of others.

people who are really smart know how to talk well and enough is enough.

the Doctrine of the mean, which we have advocated since ancient times, is about moderation.

A person who behaves appropriately in the world deserves your deep acquaintance with him.

because you have a sense of propriety, you will know how to respect others.

03

people are not proud at the top, but not humble at the bottom

some people in Zhihu ask: what is a cultured person like?

the answer to the highest praise is that the word "respect" is rigidly engraved on the face and heart.

regardless of whether he is old or young, high or low, close or close, he will respect him and never elevate himself or belittle others.

A businessman saw a ragged pencil salesman. Out of pity, he gave the man a yuan.

the salesman was a little surprised, then looked dark, but did not say a word.

after a while, the businessman returned, took out some pencils from the pen seller, and explained apologetically that he had forgotten to pick up the pen.

he said, "you and I are both businessmen. You have something to sell."

the salesman was moved and watched the businessman leave.

A few months later, we met again, and the salesman was fresh and radiant. He said to the businessman gratefully:

"you have regained my self-esteem and told me that I am a businessman."

excellent people all know how to respect others and will not put people in an awkward position.

and this kind of respect will also plant the seeds of light in people's hearts and coruscate vitality.

in the Book of changes, it is said that neither the upper hand nor the lower one is desecrated.

do not flatter those who are stronger than you, and do not treat those who are weaker than you lightly.

respect is a person's highest self-cultivation.

know how to respect others in order to get respect from others.

as Kant said:

the higher the level, the more respect for others and small potatoes can be called a big shot.

the highest state of life is tolerance, and the highest state of getting along is respect.

respect is always your own business, and it does not change because of the status of others.

A person who knows how to respect others is worth your deep acquaintance.

because of respect, I know how to think of others, how to think of others, and how to listen to the voices of others.