The best family style: big things to discuss, small things to forgive, do not fight for right or wrong

Goethe once said:

the same is true. If a person's family is scattered, no matter how high his status is, no matter how much money he earns, he can hardly feel happy.

but if the family style is harmonious, even if you are satisfied with food and clothing, you will feel happy.

the best style of a family is to discuss big things, forgive small things, don't fight for right or wrong, and don't turn over old debts.

01

do not make your own decisions

there is an old folk saying: it is better for one person to discuss than two people to discuss.

A really good family relationship is never arbitrary, but it is discussed and discussed when things go wrong.

A very successful entrepreneur was invited to a sharing meeting. At the

meeting, many people thought he would share business knowledge.

unexpectedly, he spoke astonishingly, saying something that no one had thought of.

he repeatedly stressed: "when a man is out there, he must learn one sentence: I want to discuss it with my wife."

Why?

because nowadays, when many people do things, the most common mistake is that "food comes first".

things haven't started yet, and the money is running out.

I inspected here today and had dinner there tomorrow. When I saw anything, I wanted to invest and have a look. I ran down in circles, spent a lot of money on travel and meals, and failed to accomplish a single thing.

and if you can discuss everything with your wife, it is equivalent to more discerning eyes, more smart brain, more firewall and more umbrella, which can save you a lot of unnecessary trouble.

No one is an island, and the meaning of family existence is to be warm to each other.

Smart people, in case of trouble, especially in case of major events, are bound to discuss with their families more often.

this not only makes you think more comprehensively.

more importantly, behind all discussions, it represents trust and respect.

when a family has discussion and mutual respect, the cohesion and sense of belonging of the family will be stronger.

A home will be better and better.

02

forgiveness for small things is the armor for maintaining tenderness

some people on the Internet asked: what is the secret of a happy family?

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the most popular answer is: don't blame anything.

on Zhihu, netizen @ Dingdang shared a story about her.

one afternoon, the weather was so gloomy that Ding Dang received a phone call from her husband reminding her to close the doors and windows.

Ding Dang said yes with high spirits.

but because I was in a hurry to go out, I turned around and forgot about it.

shortly after she went out, there was a storm in the sky. Rain Water went through the window and drenched the sofa and her husband's computer on the sofa.

when they got home, they were dumbfounded to see the living room in a mess.

when this happens, I believe many people will blame each other.

Ke Ding Dang's husband looked at his regretful wife, and instead of blaming, he whispered:

"it doesn't matter, it just so happens that my computer is old, so I can change it again."

is just a simple sentence, I believe that no matter what frustrations the couple encounter in the future, they will be able to get through it hand in hand.

and those unhappy families often blame and blame each other in their daily life.

the wife scolds her husband. Why don't you earn some money when you work so long every day?

the husband blames his wife. Why can't he take care of a child well? why does he catch a cold again?

parents blame their children. Why can't they do such simple homework?

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which family does not have some ups and downs?

if you are always haggling and blaming each other, it will only aggravate the war.

tolerate trifles that don't matter; forgive details that don't hurt elegance.

after all, there are only a few big winds and waves in life, and those warm in firewood, rice, oil and salt are the most moving.

03

Don't fight for right or wrong. If you win a quarrel, you will lose your feelings.

I especially like the story of Pingru and Meitang.

the love between two people, there is no vows of love, but it makes everyone who has read their stories realize what the real warm feelings are.

Life is always trivial, and two people are not without minor conflicts.

once, Pingru Meitang quarreled and Pingru lost his temper and dropped a hot kettle on the ground.

Meitang was frightened and cried instantly.

Meitang's tears suddenly pulled Pingru out of her anger.

he hastened to stop the quarrel, took Meitang by the hand, apologized and admitted that he was wrong.

Meitang saw that he bowed his head and relaxed his mood.

ask him, "Why did you give way to me when I knew I was wrong?"

to put it simply: "because I am afraid of winning a quarrel, losing my feelings, and losing you, I will lose my life."

A quarrel was resolved.

there are many trivial things in our daily life.

"should toothpaste be squeezed from the middle or from the tail?

is it better to be frugal or to pursue quality of life in daily expenses?

after a quarrel, who should admit his mistake first? "

in life, there may be differences all the time. If everything is right or wrong, it will not only hurt feelings, but also make everyone in the family physically and mentally exhausted.

there is a good saying: "Home is not a place to be reasonable. You win the truth and lose the feelings.""