Five signs of a growing pattern of a person
someone on the Internet once compared "pattern":
"Life is like a game, big and small things are divided one by one, like a close grid."
these small squares seem to have little impact, but in fact, each step will bring an indirect butterfly effect for the next step.
when a small thing fills the whole grid, the pattern of one person appears. "
indeed, the size of a person's pattern does not lie in the difficulty of things, but in the ability to deal with things.
it is mentioned in
that the more lenient it is to deal with difficulties; the more generous it is for those who deal with difficulties; the slower it is for
to deal with the most urgent things; the more peaceful it is for
to deal with the most important things; and the more unintentional it is for
to deal with difficulties.
the pattern is as big as it stands.
know how to do these five points well in order to be at ease and achieve something.
01
the more lenient it is to deal with difficult things
in life, it is inevitable that some difficult things will be encountered.
if you are broad-minded, you will be safe in case of trouble.
if you treat it with a relaxed heart, you will feel more relieved and less sad.
in the Analects of Confucius, there is such a story:
Yan Hui was walking in the market and saw a man who bought cloth quarreled with the man who sold it.
the person who bought the cloth said:
Yan Hui came forward to persuade the fight: "it is 3824, you have miscalculated." Stop fighting.
the person who bought the cloth was not convinced and said he would go to Confucius to reason, and if he was wrong, he would give his head back to Yan.
Yan Hui said that if she was wrong, she lost her hat to him.
the two men found Confucius. After Confucius asked about the situation, he said to Yan Hui:
Yan Hui helplessly gave the hat to the cloth buyer.
after
, Confucius told Yan Hui:it is mentioned in
that the more lenient it is to deal with difficulties; the more generous it is for those who deal with difficulties; the slower it is for
to deal with the most urgent things; the more peaceful it is for
to deal with the most important things; and the more unintentional it is for
to deal with difficulties.
the pattern is as big as it stands.
know how to do these five points well in order to be at ease and achieve something.
01
the more lenient it is to deal with difficult things
in life, it is inevitable that some difficult things will be encountered.
if you are broad-minded, you will be safe in case of trouble.
if you treat it with a relaxed heart, you will feel more relieved and less sad.
in the Analects of Confucius, there is such a story:
Yan Hui was walking in the market and saw a man who bought cloth quarreled with the man who sold it.
the person who bought the cloth said:
Yan Hui came forward to persuade the fight: "it is 3824, you have miscalculated." Stop fighting.
the person who bought the cloth was not convinced and said he would go to Confucius to reason, and if he was wrong, he would give his head back to Yan.
Yan Hui said that if she was wrong, she lost her hat to him.
the two men found Confucius. After Confucius asked about the situation, he said to Yan Hui:
Yan Hui helplessly gave the hat to the cloth buyer.
after
Yan Hui realized this.
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Hugo once said:
"the broadest thing in the world is the ocean, what is wider than the sea is the sky, and what is wider than the sky is the human mind."
when the vision is high, there is no obstacle, and there is a clear wave at the opening of the heart.
when a person's state of mind is broad enough, all troubles are fleeting.
the width of the heart is one inch, and the width of the road is one inch.
know how to feel relieved, so that you can live a better life.
02
the thicker it is for those who deal with difficulties
everyone is not an island and will always meet all kinds of people.
when dealing with people who are difficult to get along with, you should know how to be generous and tolerant.
Guo Ziyi and Li Guangbi, the famous generals of the Tang Dynasty, used to be the generals of an Sichun's teeth.
although he is a colleague, Li Guangbi has always been dissatisfied with Guo Ziyi. Even if he dined with Guo Ziyi at the same table, he stared and refused to say a word.
later, when the an-Shi Rebellion broke out, Guo Ziyi was promoted to Shuofang envoy, and Li Guangbi suddenly became a subordinate of Guo Ziyi.
this made Li Guangbi very worried. at the thought of offending Guo Ziyi before, he was afraid that he would put on small shoes for private gain.
he took the initiative to make amends to Guo Ziyi:
seeing this, Guo Ziyi quickly walked down the hall, took Li Guangbi by the hand and said:
Li Guangbi was very moved and determined to turn swords into friendship with Guo Ziyi.
finally, the two worked together to quell the "an-Shi Rebellion" and became the heroes of Datang Zhongxing.
there is a saying in "Cai Gentan":
the road of life will only become narrower and narrower; if you are generous to others, the road in the future will be wider and wider.
considerate and generous, such people value harmony and know how to increase the memory of their own minds.
this is not only a kind of wisdom in life, but also a way to win the respect of others.
03
when dealing with the most urgent matters, the more appropriate it is to slow down
some time ago I saw a topic: "what is the sign of a person's true maturity?"
A netizen's answer makes people deeply agree:
"even if the inner waves are rough, the surface can be light.
you can adjust yourself when you are at a low ebb, and you can stick to your heart when you are high. "
people who can really accomplish great things tend to be in no hurry and not frightened.
in his Chun Han Tang Collection in the Qing Dynasty, Zhou Rong recorded such a thing:
one winter, Zhou Rong was ready to enter the county seat, and the bookboy followed with a large pile of books.
it is getting late, and it is still about two miles from the county seat.
he asked passers-by, "is it too late before the city gate closes?"
the passer-by looked at the bookboy carefully and replied, "it's okay to walk slowly; if you leave in a hurry, you close it."
Zhou Rong disagreed, still walking quickly with the bookboy.
as a result, on the way, the child fell and the books were scattered all over the floor. By the time the books were sorted and tied up, the city gate in front of him had been tightly closed.
Master Hongyi once said:
"it is taboo to be impatient in doing things, but if you are impatient, you have no time to deal with yourself first. Why do you have time to deal with things?"
deal with emotions first, and then solve things.
all kinds of unexpected things happen to people in the world.
being blindly impatient will only add to your troubles. If you know how to slow down, you can move forward steadily.
Life is like a boxing match. Truly mature people don't let emergencies upset them.
in the face of emergencies, they will be calm, calm, not anxious, not chaotic, do not let negative emotions spread, and find a way to solve the problem in a calm and calm way.
04
the most important thing is Yuyiping
there is a famous "Valenta effect" in psychology.
Valenda is a famous high-altitude tightrope walker in the United States, but unfortunately she slipped and died in a performance.
after the event, his wife recalled that she had felt that something was going to happen because Valenda kept saying, "this time is too important to fail."
if you pay too much attention to gain and loss, the loss will often outweigh the gain.
choose normal treatment, there will be unexpected gains.
in 1965, chess player Lim Hai-Feng won the right to challenge Japanese go celebrities, challenging legendary master Sakata Eio.
Lim Hai-Feng told reporters before the match that he hoped to win a game first.
although the two men are almost the same, Lim Hai-Feng still lost the first set.
after
, Lim Hai-Feng asked his teacher Go Saigen for help.
teacher Wu comforted
"you are still young now. What's the hurry?" Why be afraid of failure?
I hope you don't worry about gains and losses and keep a normal mind. "
Lim Hai-Feng listened to the teacher, put aside his thoughts, and finally won the game with a score of 4 to 2, becoming the youngest chess player at that time.
Lin Qingxuan once said:
the state of mind is like a string, too loose and tight can not make the sound of harmony. Only when the tightness is moderate, can a beautiful melody be played.
the untrue taste is light, as usual.
keep a normal mind, take a light look at things in the world, not delusional, not persistent, in order to live a calm and wonderful life in regrets and gains and losses.
Chang Huaiping is at ease.
the most beautiful scenery in life is the peace of mind.
05
when there are difficulties, the more unintentional
, nine times out of ten, there are many difficult problems in life.
dealing with these problems should be fair and objective and should not be arbitrary.
this is the case when Cao Cao mistakenly killed Lu Boshe.
at that time, Cao Cao failed to assassinate Dong Zhuo and fled to his father's old friend Lu Boshe's home.
Lu Boshe warmly entertained Cao Cao for the night, saying that there was no good wine at home, so she wanted to go to the West Village to buy a bottle of wine, and then kill pigs and set up Yan to entertain.
however, Lu Boshe did not return for a long time, just at this time, Cao Cao heard the sound of sharpening her knife, and she thought that Lu Boshe had betrayed herself.
so Cao Cao picked up his sword and killed seven or eight people in a row, only to find out that they sharpened their knives to kill pigs and entertain themselves.
then I realized that I had killed a good man by mistake.
in life, the way of doing things often lies in the word "cautious".
in the face of difficult things, mature and cautious people do not interfere with their cognition of things with subjective prejudices, but look at the problems in an all-round way from the objective reality.
not to be disturbed by arbitrary emotions is the best way to treat yourself; to learn to solve problems objectively is the best way for a person.
Shakespeare said: "there is nothing good or bad in the world, all because of thought."
the result of a thing is sometimes determined by your own state of mind.
be lenient in the difficult things, be kind to the difficult things, be steady in dealing with the most urgent things, usually focus on the important things, and solve the difficult things objectively.
Life is like spiritual practice, and growth is achieved through the sharpening of everything.
as Wang Yangming said, "A man must grind things before he can stand."
Lighting is watching. May everyone stay out of trouble for the rest of his life and be not afraid of trouble.