Eight proverbs about family education are priceless.

educator Mr. Cai Yuanpei once said:

"A family is the school at the beginning of life."

the character of a lifetime, the so-called constant change, is probably born in the family. "

what kind of soil, what kind of flowers.

every good child is not born out of thin air, but comes from his family and begins with his parents.

educate a child well, parents want to understand these 8 proverbs, can benefit the child for a lifetime.

01

good habits are not in front of the TV

but in books

Sukhomlinsky says:

"if one does not experience the exciting joys of contemplation in front of books in childhood, it is difficult to imagine a complete education."

however, as parents' work and life become increasingly busy, more and more children spend all their time with TV, so reading has become a non-essential thing.

A follow-up study found that children who often watch TV before the age of 3 are more likely to suffer from inattention by the age of 7.

on the other hand, those children who take pleasure in reading have a higher reading level and cognitive ability than their peers, and tend to have good moral character and sound personality in adulthood.

the study also shows that parents are the really important reading role models for children, and the improvement of children's reading attitude depends largely on their parents' reading attitude.

give children Jinshan and Silver Mountain, it is better to give children a good habit of reading.

many things, the eye can not see, the text can;

step can not be measured, the text can;

the body can not reach, the text can.

Children who love reading may not be the same, but they will certainly be different:

their eyes will shine more brightly, their brains will have more question marks, their hands will be raised more calmly, and their hearts will be softer and fuller.

making children fall in love with reading is the most cost-effective educational investment in parents' lives.

02

it's more important to help children find each other

than just let them work hard

psychologists have done an experiment: divide students into three groups and go to a village 10 kilometers away.

Group A students don't know how far the village is, but just walk along the road. As soon as they walked two or three kilometers, some people complained that they were depressed and began to be scattered, and finally collapsed.

Group B students knew that they were 10 kilometers away from their destination, but there was no road sign on the way, and they had no idea how far they had left after walking. They complained incessantly when they were less than halfway through the walk, and the speed became slower and slower.

the students in group C not only know the distance, but also can see the road signs with the remaining mileage from time to time. As a result, they are in high spirits throughout the journey, and no one complains.

the experimental results are obvious: group C is the fastest, group B is the second, and group An is the slowest.

the same is true of education. What kind of person you want your child to be, you must first find the right goal, not blindly drive away.

Yang Dongping, director of the Institute of Education for the 21st Century, said:

what is more important than hard work is to run in the right direction.

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03

Don't cut off a child's wings

and complain that a child can't fly

Maraguz, founder of Reggio preschool education, wrote a poem:

"one child, there are 100 possibilities, 100 languages, 100 hands, 100 ideas, 100 worlds." But 99 was stolen;

they told their children not to do anything, but to think; not to think, but to act; to listen, not to talk, to understand without fun. "

CCTV's Psychological interview interviewed a female college student who had been at home for 10 years.

growing up, her mother restricted any of her extracurricular hobbies, and whenever she was interested in something, her mother said, "if you can do it, dogs can do it."

she finally grew into what her mother said, but her mother cried bitterly and accused her of not making progress.

replace, hinder, strike, control, etc.

how many parents cut off their children's wings, but blame their children for not being able to fly.

We often think that our love for our children is 100%, and that all giving and correction are for the good of our children.

No one knows that true love is a kind of inaction.

it does not ask, does not cast any shadow of fear, and does not hide any attempt to control.

it is the sun, emitting only light and heat, so that the child can grow wings and help him soar thousands of miles.

04

doting is the most dangerous education

what is the most direct and effective way to destroy a child?

the answer is doting.

writer Li Yue said:

Wei Yongkang, a "child prodigy", was admitted to a key university at the age of 13 and was persuaded by the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 20 because he could not take care of himself.

Sun Xiaoguo, a "wicked boy", has committed numerous heinous crimes over the past 20 years since he was a child, which is the protection and connivance of his parents, pushing him step by step into the bottomless abyss of evil.

as the saying goes, a habitual son is like killing a son.

doting is not love, but the deepest harm to the child.

overprotected love is "painless amputation". In the name of love, it brutally cuts off a child's ability to strengthen himself and stand on his own feet.

Love, which is protected everywhere, is a chronic poison that seems to give, but buries a fatal danger to the child's future life.

Love is the growth of a childInvincible armor, but doting is not.

unconditional love and conditional principles are the best education for parents to give their children.

05

blaming children for being addicted to mobile phones

it is better to reflect on themselves

around us first. More and more children are addicted to mobile games and small videos. Even immersed in social networks.

over time, mobile phones have become a wall between parents and children, and parent-child relationships are often "hostile" because of a mobile phone.

however, when we accuse our children of being addicted to mobile phones, we forget that we are the most fundamental source.

some media have investigated the families of 200 primary school students. The results show that

45% of parents spend more time playing with their mobile phones than with their children.

while with their children, as many as 48% of parents play with mobile phones, nearly half of them.

A mother on the Internet said, "the child doesn't listen to us, he imitates us."

you are looking at your phone and your child is looking at you.

behind every child who is addicted to mobile phones, there are parents who contribute to the flames.

do you still remember Wu Yishu, the "national talented woman"?

since she entered kindergarten, parents turn off their cell phones at 4:30 every afternoon, take their daughter to read and draw, play "Poetry with the Dragon" and role-play the plot of the masterpiece.

Bai Yansong said: "parents who play mahjong cannot teach enterprising children."

similarly, parents who are addicted to the mobile phone world cannot raise children who love reading.

to be a parent, you should examine yourself.

what kind of person you want your child to be, you first become that kind of person.

06

the father is absent, and the bitter thing is that the mother

hurts the child

, as the old saying goes, "if you don't teach, the father will make a mistake." in this era, there seems to be more and more lack of "father's education."

Survey data show that 60% of mothers are the absolute main force of family education, less than 15% of fathers play a leading role, and less than 1/3 of parents share responsibility for education.

it is not easy to raise children, but what can support most of the sky is the loneliness of most mothers.

that's why mom's anxiety is growing.

and this anxiety will all be projected on the child, turning into an airtight net, making the child like a trapped animal, full of repression, struggle, tyranny and camouflage.

A vacant father, an anxious mother, raises an out-of-control child.

this is true of Wu Yifan, from the "top stream" to the prisoner, and so is Wu Xieyu, from high achiever to the mother killer.

painter Liu Yong once said:

"many fathers have no hands in their children's pictures. Why?" Because in the child's memory, the father is like a shadow, always unable to grasp. "

many families look complete, but the outline of the father is still blurred in the eyes of the children.

the Art of Love says: "Mother represents nature, the earth and the sea, and is our hometown; father represents the world of thought, law and order."

A good education is not a stand-alone struggle, but a loving "collusion" of parents:

mothers give their children emotional needs and tenderness, while fathers teach their children rational thinking and power patterns, each in his own place and in his own place.

this kind of upbringing is the most advanced nourishment.

07

there are many ways to succeed

you don't have to ask children to squeeze others

there is a question: "what's it like to be successful in the eyes of your parents?"

the most popular answer is:

the greatest sorrow of parents is that all your plans for your children are in vain in the end.

in your eyes, "success" is not necessarily a success recognized and liked by the child's heart.

the child's life is his own, and the meaning of the child's life should also be defined by him.

Jim Florrick, a famous American golf star, once said:

when I was a child, many people thought I would accomplish nothing, but my grandmother discovered my talent in sports.

success is like everyone rushing to the same destination. If they all squeeze the subway, there will be too many people. It may take a long time to have their own place, and even if they arrive, they can only stand far behind others.

since it's just a process, why don't we choose another way? Most of the time, you only need to turn a few turns to get there first. "

there are thousands of ways to succeed, and not everyone has to make the same choice.

only the one that suits the child best leads to true success.